Humility in Issues of Sexuality

This world has changed so much over the past few years. There is an increasing dechristianization of pop culture, and the issue of sexuality seems ever more pressing as the years go on. 

I had a friend in second grade in the United States with two moms. I never really thought about it or understood. I also didn’t ever really wrestle with issues of sexuality until middle school when I was more exposed to it. 

When we moved to Europe, I didn’t fit in and was sort of an outcast because it was hard for me to understand others. I wasn’t the only one who was sort of alienated as those who were openly bi, gay, and lesbian. Some of those people became my friends and I learned a lot from that experience, about what the Bible says about sexuality as well as how to interact with something that is a sin according to Christian moral standards. I have no authority to talk about this, but I still want to explore this subject. Maybe it’s pretentious of me, maybe it isn’t. I wish I knew some of the things I know now, a few years later. If we want to talk about homosexuality, we must first remove our masks and humble ourselves before the cross. Too often we come into this subject with hardened hearts that do not seek with an open mind in humility, instead to judge. Is this really a Christ-worthy heart posture? 

In Romans 2, Paul asks a fundamental question: “you, then, who teach others, do you not teach yourself?” I want to recognize that I do not know everything within this particular subject, though I do come ready to listen and be educated on the beliefs and opinions of others, as Ipoint back to Christ. We all have struggles and it is not fair for us to judge others who have certain struggles because we deem them ‘more severe’. We are all sinners. I ask for grace and patience with both me and yourself, before entering into this controversial topic. Lust deals with the same root of sin- the same deformation of biblical sexuality- do we as a church condemn this as much as we condemn homosexuality? This reveals a profound dichotomy within the church. “You who say people should not commit adultery, do you commit adultery?” (Romans 2:22) 

Therefore as we approach the cross and implore God to show us His will in issues of sexuality, we should first examine ourselves and see where we are falling prey to sexual issues in our own lives. Ever since the fall, sexuality has been deformed, since Adam and Eve were ashamed of their nakedness(Genesis 3). Our sin has transformed something that should be beautiful and whole into something that is broken. The nature of our sinful flesh has taken what was initially good from the Lord and has distorted through the drive of our temptations.

In the coming weeks, I will publish an article on homosexuality and how to approach this issue biblically, but I invite you first to walk this road with me. This is not a light issue or a joke, it’s serious and increasingly relevant to the world we live in. 

This may be a short article, but it is not one to disregard. Think about this with me and examine your heart, that we may both approach this issue with sincere humility: how are you dealing with sexual brokenness in your own life?