Survey #3: Christian conflict resolution

Hey guys (and girls)!

Today, I have a special treat for everyone! We have our third survey with the blog :)

The question I asked today was, “In your opinion, what does Christian conflict resolution look like?”. Conflict is something we all have to deal with in our relationships, at some point or the other, and personally, I have found it hard to know how to do so in a good, healthy

way, so I have really enjoyed hearing what everyone had to say about this primordial subject.

Anywho, let’s go ahead and dive in!

Willow:

I believe that resolving conflict as a Christian means not acting upon emotion right away. I still need reminders of this but sometimes when we're faced with an assault or a difficult situation we often act solely on instinct and without taking the time to think and pray about it. Granted we don't always have the time to do it right away, but resolving conflict takes forgiveness on both sides, listening ears, empathy, and doing your best to understand the others point of view or opinion. It also takes humility. A lot of it :)

Lauren:

As a Christian, you should seek to resolve conflict in a way in which Jesus would. Pray about the situation because every situation is different, and do not resolve it in a selfish way, do it for the betterment of your friendship and out of your love for your friend. Never let the sun set on conflict, be the bigger person and be willing to apologize regardless of a friend’s behavior

Ann:

I've had to deal with a lot of conflict resolution recently and the biggest thing that I've learned is to listen. Stop talking and truly soak up what the other person is saying. It might be a lot, and it might really hurt, and be sad for you, but a lot of times that person might just need to be heard. After you listen ask them if you can have a second, or maybe ask to go to the bathroom and pray and ask God to go before you and help you forgive that other person and help you understand what you can do better in the future, and then go back and talk to the person and tell them how you will do better, and then explain your feelings. I think that explaining your feelings is tricky especially when you are emotional and it is easy to lash out and say something that you don't mean. by stepping away and being with God for a second you can center yourself on Him, and ask Him for the words to say, and how to love this person.

Mathias:

I think Christian conflict resolution is when both sides can recognize that they may be wrong and are willing to change and accept a rebuke knowing it’s with the love of God that they’re talking.

Courtney:

Communication is key to friendship, but also, if not even more, to conflict resolution as Christians. Without communication, we don’t know what the relationship should look like. Talking about things really is key- although there are some things that shouldn’t be talked about or can’t be talked about. also, you should pray through what you are going to say before you talk to the other person, so that you know that what you are going to say is approved by God.

Adam:

I think there are two very important things that go into resolving a conflict. The first one is for each person to really look at the other side of the issue and try to understand it. The second thing is for everyone involved to show love and forgiveness, even if they didn't get their way. (See 1st Corinthians 6:7b)

Yaelle:

I think both sides have to listen and really try to understand the other side's point of view. They have to be willing to admit where they were wrong, forgive each other, and change the things that need to be changed. It takes humility, love, and prayer, and often a lot of patience.

And on that note, I would like to thank everyone for their participation and help and wish everyone a gréât rest of their day!

Rose